How To Be Happy

Positive psychology and the science of happiness can now point you in the direction of happiness. A fulfilling and flourishing life is now closer at hand for each of us and the larger community.

Harvard’s Positive Psychology 1504

A ‘How To Be Happy’ course taught by professor Tal Ben-Shahar (PhD), entered the history books as the most popular course in the history of Harvard University. This course consists of 22-75 minutes lectures. Along with guest lecture on humor, given by Shawn Achor, who also studied and taught at Harvard. The course teaches the psychological aspects of life fulfillment and flourishing, by teaching about empathy, friendship, love, achievement, creativity, spirituality, happiness, and humor.

Berkeley University Of California GG101x

The Science Of Happiness course taught by Dacher Keltner and Emiliana Thomas is the first MOOC to teach positive psychology. Learn science-based principles and practices for a happy, meaningful life.”A free eight-week Science of Happiness course that will offer practical, research-backed tips on living a happy and meaningful life.” – The Huffington Post

Greater Good In Action

Berkeley University of California created The Greater Good Science Center along with The Greater Good In Action. Providing resources to apply science based practices for a meaningful life. The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Engaged In Happiness

As a student at Berkeley University Of California, The Science Of Happiness course is exciting and fun to be engaged in. Entering into this new field is rich and I’m sure will be rewarding in ways I can’t even image. I encourage you to take part in any way you are drawn to. Here’s to your happiness!

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Tools To Find Your Dream Job

Are you considering investing years getting an education for a future career? If so, this is a pivotal time in your life. Gleaming all the information you can about your decision will set you apart from the pack. Doing a full assessment gets you one step closer in minutes rather than years. The information can provide you with self information that will have a lasting impact on your life.

Worthwhile Assessment Texting

Taking an assessment test is the first step for clarity. Taking hours to analysis the results and put it to use will save you hours, days, months and years of time. On first glance you will see some things but on a more in-depth study of your results you can put the information to work for you. In the end you will approach your final decision with a deeper conviction and focus. Here are two assessment text, both include the Myers Briggs. One is sufficient when you study it in-depth.

Personality Max  $37

Myers Briggs  $49.95

SDS Self-Directed Search $9.95

Strong Profile – College Edition  $9.95

Statistics Regarding Career Options

When it comes to a placing yourself in an environment to flourish, many aspects need to be considered. These statistics and information described in detail the things to consider and sort through. There is a difference in the natural strengths that you bring to any environment and putting yourself in an environment where you will never be recognized for your natural abilities. This website describes what the career entails and what you need to get started.

Is there a point in getting a four-year degree to end up working for $20.00 an hour. Do your research, what are the real possibilities of your career choice income. Before you begin your course of study check out the job prospects in the future and what it may be like to work in the environment you have selected. There is detailed information about these details with the SDS Self-Directed Search.

Education About Your Education

Will you need a four-year degree or an advanced degree. What true value will you gain from an advanced degree, in your field of study? What are the top schools in the field I want to be prepared for? Would you have a leg up on getting the position of your dreams if you attended the leading university for your field of choice?

Top Universities

Relocating For Work

As an example: Chemistry. California is the largest employer chemist. If staying in your home state near family is important, notice the realistic possibilities of your career choice in your local area. Check it out before you begin your education. Save yourself time and money. Avoid going back and doing your education again.

My Personal Story Using Assessments

I took the Strong/Campbell Interest and Skill Survey in the early 80’s. It showed photography as an interest. I was called shortly after and asked to work for a company doing photography. Without this skill survey I would have never said yes. I was personally trained to do the photography for a video dating company in Mill Valley. This was the moment my professional career started in photography.

Near the millennium I was in a career crisis and took several assessments. This time diving deeper into the information. I was looking for what they all had in common. For me that included; religious activities, counseling, writing, public speaking, teaching and photography. As well as the culinary arts which has been a consistent thread in my life both as a restaurateur and a home chef. I developed a wedding and coaching business around these skills and enjoy a lifestyle that feels well suited for my interest, passions and skills. I’m an INFJ.

The information is only as good as the research that goes into understanding it and yourself. Dive deep…you deserve it. Build a life that fits you! Take one or take them all. Either way spend time with the information and find success.

Need Help Making Sense Of It All?

You don’t need to struggle with the results if you need help to see the clarity of what is in front of you. Give me a call and make an appointment. We will search for your clarity together. 415-409-9264

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Channel of Recognition~Emotional Energy

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The Channel of Recognition 

Allows you to recognize an emotion within yourself, that you can share. This energy is about discerning a potential experience, and feeling within yourself how much you are drawn to each experience. How much attention you are going to commit to it, or not?

Within this channel is a strong pressure, recognized by an intense feeling. Wisdom is gained through exploring all kinds of feelings. Weighing up your feelings to a point of emotional clarity. Once clear, leaping into the experience. Whatever happens within the experience, you come out of it with a sense of completion, that opens you to all forms of new experiences with added confidence.

This is emotional pressure to ‘Experience’ something, often something emotionally. Often felt in the body as a restlessness or nervousness. Sometimes an endless yearning to feel in order to learn.

It takes patience and composure to develop the art of waiting for clarity about which experience to enter into. Time is required to move through the emotional way from hope to pain in order to finally see which desires are correct to experience. The stress of this energy can feel like one is never free from desire.

It can also be experienced as confusion of feelings, as it’s connected to the emotional wave of chemistry. This is the energy of emotional aches and yearnings. Sometimes not knowing what is even being yearned for. There is an underlying yearning to experience all kinds of new things, the results which may or may not be the gaining of wisdom.

As long as you can enter in from a clear emotional space whatever you are learn will be correct for you. Even if it doesn’t meet your expectations.

Spiritually this is the ‘Hand Of God’ in it’s deepest potential. True peace is simply to enjoy the dreams themselves rather than to expect desires to bring any lasting peace. The highest use of this energy is to find the type of prayer that speaks to your heart and enter into the meditation daily. The intensity of the drive requires waiting for clarity and prayer can take you to that clarity.

People with this energy can be powerful dreamers, bringing to the world stories of new experiences and adventures. Or they can be living in constant state of chaos leaping into the wrong adventure and hurting themselves and others. Because this is an emotional channel, time is required before clarity and before taking action.

True creativity is a thoughtful, deliberate process not a wild shot in the dark. 

It’s important that when you have this energy to be sure to communicate clearly. Always make sure the other person really understand what you just said and isn’t spinning fantasies around with they think they heard. It is a projected channel, wait for the invitation rather than initiating this energy. The highest expression of this energy is extremely creative, passionate and innovative.

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Projector

As a Projector you are waiting for an invitation that includes a recognition of your unique traits.

Your Emotional Chemistry

Lives in the sensing chemistry in your body. Your energy is very focused on the energy of feelings.

To find release in this emotionalism there are two themes to focus on in your life.

1. Don’t try to make your dreams come true.

2. Don’t expect any of your desires to bring you lasting peace.

True peace is simply to enjoy the dreams themselves.

This emotional energy is often experienced as pressure. The yearning here is to feel in order to learn.

When making decisions, wait for the emotional wave to move from hope to pain, a few times in order to feel which of the desires in front of you are correct for you. Always give yourself the time you need to come to clarity. Usually at least twenty-four hours. Sometimes decisions can take much longer.

What Drives Your Emotional Chemistry

In this incessant urge to experience new feelings, you constantly fantasize about having new experiences. This is experienced within you as an impulse to do something new. It’s the pressure to seek experience through a feeling of restlessness, as though something new is beginning.

Desire is the source of all our emotional aches and yearnings. You may not know what you are longing for, but you are driven to want to try all kinds of new things. With this focus the emotional field focuses on a single fantasy or desire at a time. It can feel very fixed.

When you can enter into new situations from a clear emotional space, whatever you learn will be correct for you, even if it doesn’t meet your expectations. When you enter into new situations without emotional clarity, lessons can be harsh.

You can recognize a feeling, you can notice nervousness which usually indicates confusion rather than clarity. As this energy can focus on sexual feelings, in a design of yearning, it would be best to find productive ways to fill this need for feelings and fill the yearning with something that nurtures your soul.

What You Want Recognized

You are here to be creatively different from everyone else. Your life is about having the courage to stand out from the crowd. Simply by being yourself, you will always get the recognition you deserve. Attention will come. You draw people’s attention to a truth.

Your creativity to express yourself in your uniqueness inspires others. In your uniqueness you will inspire others in their uniqueness. You are here to be unique. Anyone that recognizes your uniqueness is part of your tribe. You need to be recognised and invited to express your uniqueness in order to earn the respect that you deserve.

Focus on your immense capacity for creativity. You are the creative artist. You have to do it your way. Creativity waxes and wanes, creative outlets don’t. Create for the sake of creativity. Become immersed in your creativity without a goal.

Follow your creative self-expression. You are the Artist/Creator. This is your deepest need, to express your own individual contribution. Stand up and get everyone’s attention. You are the promoter of something new. You know you can make a contribution! Your creative expression of feelings.

Through your own inspiration you will gain recognition and inspire others to do the same.

Waiting for the recognition fuels your destiny.

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Each projector is waiting for a specific type of recognition in the invitation. Each emotionality is unique; dreaming, yearning, etc. for something different.

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Signs Of Emotional Intelligence EI

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What Does Emotional Intelligence Look Like?

Emotional intelligence looks like a person that is understanding, empathizing with others and negotiating life situations through effective communication skills. Without emotionally intelligence in our life and career, success eludes us.

Self Awareness Leads To Self-Regulating

The ability to recognize an emotion as it “happens” is the first sign that an emotion may need some awareness and attention brought to it. As soon as you recognize an emotion happening you can begin to notice the effects in the physical body. The physical signs of tightness in the body or chemicals racing through the blood are the first sign that your emotional awareness can monitor the situation rather than take simply reacting or taking action.

You have already begun the process of self-regulating by bringing your attention to your own physical body rather than directing your attention on an outward story or situation. This is the process of self-control. As you focus on the impulses in the body you can begin to open to new ideas rather than getting caught in your own chemistry.

Noticing Emotions As Energy In The Body

Now that your focus is on the sensations moving through your body. Notice the thoughts that begin to frame in your mind. Negative thoughts can be reframed into more positive thoughts. With this focus, you can drop the stories that want to be created. The stories that build obstacles and setbacks in your life. Here you begin to notice the energy in the body and become the witness rather than reacting.

Due to the chemistry that comes from emotions running through the body, everything works better if you also have a therapeutic way to transform the emotions in the body. Physical exercise is good for this and Healing QiGong is profoundly powerful in moving emotional energy in the body – out.

Emotions are mapped and held energetically in the organs of the body. Some system of bodily release needs to be embraced on a regular basis.

Self-Empathy And Interpersonal Skills

Your ability to recognize how you feel will assist you in discerning how other people feel. Bolstering your interpersonal abilities which will assist you in cultivating opportunities with others. Understanding others and discerning the feelings behind your needs and wants and the needs and wants of others.

Strong communication skills start with your own inner personal communication and move out towards others as development deepens. Rather than coming from confusion, you can effectively communicate by sending clear messages. Before you know it you are building relationship bonds that are nurturing without being destructive. You have flow in your life rather than ups and downs.

Psychologists agree that among the ingredients for success seventy-five percent involves Emotional Intelligence. So What Is Emotional Intelligence?

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Entrepreneurs Rule And They Always Will

The Men That Built America

They became the titans of America’s Industry, each one becoming the richest man in America at one time.

1. Cornelius Vanderbilt built the infrastructure across the United States with the Railroad and built Grand Central Depot in New York. He became the richest man in history.
2. Andrew Carnegie became a self-made steel tycoon. At the age of 65, Carnegie decided to spend the rest of his days helping others by building libraries and making donations to education.
3. J.P. Morgan went from buying railroads to bailing out the U.S. Government. He went from rich to richer.
4. Henry Ford’s Model A shaped the future of America society, by building affordable cars to the masses.

Shared Interest And Strengths of The Titans

• The believed in building an idea with a sense of destiny, foresight and determination.
• They saw possibilities where others didn’t.
• They continued to show courage during the constant changes in the marketplace and in the climate that threaten the empires they built.

They never would have guessed what they would accomplish in thirty years. And neither do we! We don’t know where our vision will takes us, when we start out to build an idea into a reality. Once the idea is birthed it has a life of it’s own and can take us on a journey never foreseen.

Become the entrepreneur you have always envisioned, with a little help success is just around the corner. Start today getting the business coaching you need to move forward. Call Ema at 415-409-9264.

The 15 Characteristics of Effective Entrepreneurs

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Teachers On The Path To Enlightenment

Someone recently asked me,”Who’s your spiritual teacher?”

My mind was stunned by the question, how could I come up with one? After some reflection I would say; “My greatest spiritual teachers were the people in my life who I exchanged love with. The experience of loving each being has crafted me into a many faceted gem.”

Here are some of the spiritual teachers I have walked with on the path.

Baba Hari Dass

I began going to Mount Madonna retreats for yoga and there I was introduced to Baba Hari Dass. I went many times and gave serious consideration to living in community at Mount Madonna. The times that I shared at Mount Madonna doing yoga, floating in deprivation tanks, sitting with Baba Hari Dass was a special time of spiritual exploration and discovery.

St. Benedictine

After two years of spiritual direction, I took vows as a third order monastics, choosing the St. Benedictine Camaldolese order. New Camaldolese Hermitage Benedictine monastery in Big Sur is situated in the rugged coastal mountains overlooking the Pacific Ocean. A natural setting profoundly conducive to the contemplative way of life. As a Camaldolese Benedictine Oblate I took vows to live by this unique spirit of balance, moderation and reasonableness. St. Benedictine’s Rule became one of the most influential religious rules in Western Christendom. For this reason, Benedict is often called the founder of western monasticism. I often went on retreat to the monastery, embracing this unique spirit of balance in my everyday life.

Desert Fathers

In the early Middle Ages, there lived a group of hermits in the wilderness areas of the Middle East. They were known as the desert fathers. They lived in small isolated communities for purpose of devoting their lives completely to God without distraction. The contemplative movement traces its roots back to these monks. They were the ones who first promoted the mantra as a prayer tool. The meditation practices and rules for living of these earliest Christian monks bear strong similarity to those of their Hindu and Buddhist renunciate brethren several kingdoms to the East … the meditative techniques they adopted for finding their God suggest a borrowing from the East. These writings and those of the christian mystics were my contemplative tools.

Pope John Paul II

In 1987 during the Papal Visit of Pope John Paul II, I was in attendance with the my monastic brothers and sisters at St. Mary’s Cathedral in San Francisco. It was a thrill as he entered the Cathedral and on his way out he took my hand for a moment and directly behind him the archbishop put a rosary in my hand that felt just like the Pope’s skin. It was a mass I shall never forget and to have a personal moment with the Pope was an amazing experience. Raised as a Methodist, received into the episcopalians and confirmed into the Roman Catholic Church, this was never something I expected to be doing. Later I also saw him at the stadium for a large communion, which was also a memory I will never forget.

Mother Theresa

Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, Mother Teresa’s spiritual life was of deep interest to me. When I got to meet her face to face during a visit to San Francisco I came to understand how ‘She was a real mother  of all of us’. This tiny women with her message of love and service won the nobel peace prize in 1979 and her legacy knows no boundaries. It was amazing to hear her speak to us in a small room. Even with steps up to the podium her small frame looked dwarfed. Such a powerful women in such a tiny frame. It was remarkable to be in the same room with her.

Dalai Lama

I knew the gentlemen that orchestrated the Dalai Lama affairs and I was invited to meet him while he was here for a visit in Berkeley. I couldn’t believe I was standing in front of him talking with him at a gathering just like you would and other being. It was surreal. I had studied his life and listened to his teachings and know I was standing and chatting with him. Another great memory.

Gurumayi Chidvilasananda

She is the current spiritual head of the Siddha Yoga path. Informally known as Gurumayi (the word translates to “immersed in the Guru”). Gurumayi came to San Rafael and was received by a very large gathering. This was my first exposure to a women guru. As the siddha took place I walked up to be blessed by Gurumayi carrying roses from my garden. As soon as she saw me she asked about the roses. When she found out they were from my garden she invited me to sit right next to her. They were peace roses and very large and beautifully fragrant. Again another surreal experience. I started to visit the ashram and on one occasion found myself taking a personal stroll with Gurumayi. She has such an amazing essence, it is a thrill to be in her presence.

Dr. Vasant Lad

Vasant Dattatray Lad is an American author, Ayurvedic physician, professor and director of the Ayurvedic Institute in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He is considered one of the foremost experts on the subject in the United States. I studied the Ayurvedic Certification Program with Dr.Lad. I found the principles and practical applications profoundly useful while raising my son and incorporated the learning into my lifestyle.

Gabriel Cousins

Gabriel practices and teaches holistic medicine. He was my personal physician, counselor and teacher. I became a Reiki Master under his guidance. I also became more interested in live foods as a life therapy, and considered joining the “Essene Order Of Light”, a modern version of the Essenes. After much contemplation I took vows with the Benedictines as I felt they were more moderate.

I also took many workshops that guided me along my path. Some of them include; Life Training, Concept Therapy, Watsu, Ikebana, Aromatherapy, Human Design, Gene Keys. And then you have all the authors of our time like; Andrew Weil, Chopra, Eckhart Tolle, M. Scott Peck, Don Miguel Ruiz’s ‘Four Agreements, etc. It is impossible to name one teacher. It’s endless all the ways I have been guided along.

I can’t even remember them all. I thank each and every one whether I remember your name or not…Thank you for touching my life in profound and gentle ways.

In the 80’s I became a spiritual director myself and have been enriched with the people I have guided along the path. Spiritual direction is offered one on one.

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My Life As A Dyslexic by Ema Drouillard

Who Wants To Be Normal Anyway?

In 1988 I was a photographer for the Right One, one of the first video dating services. My job was to photograph the new members for five images on a page. From this page people would pull the members video to view. It was a fun job.

One morning as I was walking up the stairs with my gear, I took a fall on the stairs. That fall resulted in neck surgery and a very long recovery. During this recovery all the systems I had put in place to assist me in operating in my life, fell apart as well. Loving friends moved my belongings while I was in the hospital to a more suitable place to recover. My car was sold and gone. For me everything was moved and changed. I was also medicated and in a great deal of non-stop pain. My dyslexic was really in my face and without my systems in place, I was lost.

During this long recovery I did something most dyslexic people would never approach. I wrote an article about my dyslexia and submitted it to the Reader’s Digest for publication. It took a computer and many friends to review it before it was ready for submission. Once submitted to my surprise and delight they published the article in 1989. I have recently come across the pages I submitted to the Reader’s Digest and have included the article here for you, My Life As A Dyslexic. In the article I share my life experience up to that time with dyslexia.

Today dyslexia is more familiar to people but still many families are affected and there is always room for understanding, clarity and information. Recently HBO created a documentary film, The Big Picture: Rethinking Dyslexia. Well done and well worth the view. Share with anyone you know that may benefit from the information. The more the dyslexic understands about dyslexia the more fully they can live their unique experience. Which can be rich and full.

In my coaching practice I enjoy working with people that are dyslexic, highly sensitive and empaths as these are my personal experience as well. Call today! 415-409-9264.

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How To Make An Emotionally Clear Decision

Emotions and Decisions

Making decisions when emotional, most often leads to feeling stuck and dissatisfied in relationship. Making clear decisions when emotional is rarely possible.  If I asked you; “Do you consider yourself an emotional being?” And you answer “yes”, you may have noticed you need tools to make clear decisions.  Being an emotional means ‘there is no truth in the now’ because the body is usually experiencing some kind of emotional chemistry.  This chemistry may feel like a wave or a spike. The chemistry runs on the nervous system and can be very taxing on the body. Perhaps the most ineffective action is to take action while in the chemistry.

When enough charged chemistry runs through the body; you can feel exhausted, your lower back can feel like you have been hit by a two by four, and no one wants to be around you in your chemical soup. This can leave your personal relationships in a state of ruin.

With the right tools in hand an emotional person can have a road map through the chemistry and ride on smooth waters.  Learn the signs of emotional chemistry and develop a step by step system for yourself that will bring about more peace in all of your loving relationships.  With your own personal emotional mapping you will have a course of action rather than reacting and bringing discord into your life.

Let’s get started.

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