Our Emotional Relationships Stir Our Deepest Emotions

Our Emotional Relationships Stir Our Deepest Emotions

Our Emotional Wave

There are so many theories on emotions. Throughout history we have tried to understand our emotions on every level. Humans are emotional by nature.  Some individuals are strongly defined in their emotional bodies, while others seem to be more even in nature.  For individuals that are strongly defined by their emotions, life can become turbulent on a regular basis which not only affects their relationship with themselves but the relationships of their family and friends which provide the deepest support of the ups and downs on the emotional wave.  Like a wave coming to shore, it passes fairly quickly.

Relationships exist between and during the waves of emotions. Emotions move through our body on a wave of chemistry, riding the body via the nervous system. Each brief emotion carries its own intensity. The overwhelm can have the mind trying to understand what is happening and the mind will begin to create a story.  Which may or may not be right. Often heated emotions want to get validated by getting agreement from someone else.  And it all begins to run amok.  The train has left for its destination of chemical confusion.

Given the energy of an individual, this wave can be big, long, powerful and completely off course.  It can cause one to think they are right and that now is the time to prove it.  But here’s the truth, in the relationship with yourself and with others, you are most interested in one thing, experiencing love with yourself and others.  Whenever the chemistry becomes bigger-than, this is the very best time to wait, pause, change the focus, mediate, calm down and give yourself a break…and everyone else.

The quickest way to do this is to have some tools to rely on when needed. Tools you work with every day and every hour.  These tools will be different for each of us.  What may work for one won’t work for all. I can help you to find yours. Your tool bag will provide you a map out of your mental loop created by your chemistry and get you quickly to a calm peaceful state.  Calm waters.

Here are some tools to consider.  

• A daily routine of exercise which may be a gentle stroll, a mountain hike, yoga, qi gong, the list goes on…
• A daily diet that supports an even blood sugar level.
• A way out of the mental loop.
• Wait until the next day to make a decision.
• Wait until you are emotionally clear before approaching a loved one.
• When you feel like you must react, wait until you can respond.

Responding usually involves providing information that is direct rather than emotionally distorted by the chemistry.  Some individuals can only come to clarity over time, time to reflect, time for the emotion to shift, time for the wave to move on. If your clarity comes over time, give yourself the gift of time and learn to wait for your clarity. It will come.

Fill your tool bag with the very best tools to see you through a safe passage on your journey of life. Give yourself permission to care for yourself in a nurturing way.  Enjoy the ride…emotions are a ride, and with the right tools it can be a great ride.