It’s wise to “talk sex before sex” to avoid disappointment and heartache. Imagine you have connected with “The One” you rush into sex before talking about sex, only to find out “The One” lives a polygamous lifestyle. Your one and only likes many. Now what?
There are an array of endless stories that could play out. Take the extra step and have a talk about sex before having sex together. Eyes wide open kind of thing.
Our fantasy world can collide with our reality when we fall into relationships rather than communicating in a relationship. In a relationship, communication is King and Queen. So sit down and have a royal conversation.
Begin With Radical Honesty
Trust is pivotal in any relationship. Breaking trust often breaks the relationship. This new beginning is an opportunity to be your most loving self by being truthful and honest about your sexual history and current sexual health.
It’s always best to be safe rather than sorry. Testing for STD’s or STI’s within the last six months is a good start. Share the actual test results with each other.
What does having sex together mean? Are we in an exclusive relationship with each other? Or, are we open to other relationships as well. Is the relationship moving in the direction of commitment? Or
Erotic desires can swing in many directions. What’s yours? Are you monogamous? Has a three-some always seemed tantalizing? What are your sexual preferences?
Every one gets to have their no. It’s a short and complete sentience.
If You Can’t Talk About It|You Can’t Do It
If you don’t feel comfortable talking about sex, begin by having this kind of conversation with a close same-sex friend or family member. Find your words and communicate. It will add to your level of intimacy and pleasure. Talk about it.
Talking Sex Is Not An Invitation To Sex
Talking about sex is not an open invitation to sex. Being sensual is not an invitation to sexual intercourse. Each step along the way consent needs to be fully expressed. There is no need to rush, slowing down adds it’s own benefits to the exploration.
Slow down and communicate along the way. Be intimate with someone that will respect your ‘no.’ Both partners need to be heard and respected. Will you hear my ’no?’ Will you respect my ’no’?
Avoid surprises that can have long-lasting consequences. Talk sex before sex!